Clear As Mud
 

Tears of love

How do you do something that you know is right and yet feels so wrong…..?

How do you stay strong when you are so broken….?

How do you pick yourself up when you just want to crumble…?

There are all questions that I wish I had answers for. 

Those of you who follow me on social media have seen my son Menny. Menny who lights up every room that he walks into, Menny who can dance anyone under the table, Menny who is sensitive to a fault. Menny who is probably the most popular kid in school. 

Menny also struggles. He struggles with impulse control, he struggles with anger, he struggles with violence. 

We have been managing these challenges for a while but unfortunately, it’s not under control. Things are getting worse, not better. We have an amazing team in Bozeman who have been working tirelessly to unlock the code that is Menny. 

We were stuck and out of tools. It became clear it was time to take our doctors’ advice and get serious about the next step.

Next step brings us to this moment, as I’m sitting in the airport, awaiting my flight back to Bozeman, having done the most painful and traumatizing thing I’ve ever had to do. 

We enrolled Menny in a very special program that will hopefully evaluate, strategize, problem solve and get to the source of Menny’s behavior issues. This will hopefully allow us to gain a better understanding of our sweet boy, so we can help and provide him the tools he needs for success. 

Tears are pouring from my eyes as the only image I see in my head is five compassionate people taking Menny from me. 

Yes, this is what he needs, yes I’m an active participant, but the pain and the hurt as he looks at me saying “don’t leave me here”… is just too much to bear. 

Yet, we do it, we do it out of love though it feels so cruel. How I will live with myself for the coming weeks only G-d knows. But I do know deep down that I’m doing the right thing. (even though it took every ounce of strength I have not to take him with me and run). And maybe even one day he will forgive me (not counting on it anytime soon).

I’m sure so many of you are thinking how this could be, this is not the Menny we see and know. I want to tell you that the Menny you see on social media is the real Menny, it’s just not all of Menny.

I am very intentional with why I am sharing Menny’s journey on such a public space. 

I want Menny to know that there is nothing about himself that he should be ashamed of. He should feel proud that he is facing his challenges head on and doing something most people can’t wrap their brains around.

I am honored to be his mother and I only hope I can live up to be the mother he deserves. 

 
 

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Noah has cooked in a variety of kitchens and has studied many different cuisines, but his favorite meals to prepare are the ones that make his guests smile. Be it Thai, Italian, Caribbean or Latin, there is always a fun surprise waiting for you at meal time. Noah welcomes special requests and guests in his kitchen! Just stop by and say hi.

Yocheved Sidof is a social entrepreneur, psycho-mystical depth work facilitator, writer, educator, speaker, and activist. After a decade as a filmmaker and photographer, she founded Lamplighters Yeshivah, a grassroots, internationally acclaimed, progressive Chassidic Montessori school. Yocheved builds communities with healing at the center. Most recently, she founded Ohm’ek, an intentional collective focusing on meditation, embodied mysticism, and micro-retreats.

A lifelong learner, she’s completed extensive training in adaptive leadership, therapeutic coaching, and systemic change. She is currently in a two-year intensive training with Thomas Hubl, studying psycho-somatic-mystical models of healing personal, collective, and ancestral trauma. She also writes, consults, works 1:1 with clients, facilitates group transformational work, and regularly teaches Jewish spiritual studies.

Yocheved sits on boards supporting innovations in mental health awareness and self-transformation. She has studied Jewish mysticism and meditation extensively, including with Rav Katz since 2018, completing Elevation Teacher Training and sitting on his advisory board for over a year.

Yocheved, her husband, and five children live in Crown Heights, Brooklyn. Come say “Hi!” if you’re in the neighborhood.